Here are some questions I’ve been asked or know might arise about seeing me.

What’s the big deal about screening? Why do you need my name/phone number/ID/etc.?

I screen for my safety, not to collect information on my clients. Statistically speaking, I’m at far greater risk of assault, abuse, and arrest than my clients. Screening helps mitigate (but sadly, not eliminate) my chances of being a victim. My screening process isn’t about you, it’s about me.

The lovely Sienna Charles wrote an excellent blog about this. If screening worries you, please read it to allay your concerns. (My favorite quote: “I don’t want to out you…If I did that, I wouldn’t have any work.”)

Why can’t I ask you about the specific things I want/why don’t you promise anything but your time?

Unfortunately, in America it is illegal to exchange money for sex. It’s illegal to even discuss it. Whether you or I agree with these laws is irrelevant; they are the current laws, and we must abide by them. It is legal to exchange money for time, and that is all you and I can commit to. What happens when we meet in person is simply what happens between two consenting adults.

I’m running early/late…

Please do not arrive early. You are welcome to text me and inquire if I’m ready for you, but knocking on my door early without checking first will land you on my naughty list. If you’re just a few minutes early, you’re welcome to wait in your car.

If you’re running late, please contact me as soon as you have an idea of the revised timing. I may be able to accommodate a late arrival, depending on my schedule that day. If it feels right given the day and the delay, I may offer you a shorter session ending close to the original time; however, you will be charged the full donation amount for the scheduled time. If you are too late for me to make your session work, please see my cancellation/no show/late arrival policy (found here and here). I will happily apply 50% of the charge to your next session, should you schedule a make-up session within a week or so.

Do I have to shower/wash up?

Well, no. I’m not your mother, and I’m not going to make you do anything. That said, steering wheels and door handles are fairly nasty, and I’d prefer not to introduce external flora and fauna to the delicate balance of my body’s ecosystem. Also, my sense of smell is very good, so if I ask you to shower, please understand it’s not an insult; I simply want to enjoy being close to you!

You are more than welcome to shower before and after your session.

Do you see couples or “moresomes?”

Yes indeed! I’m delighted to meet your partners/lovers/friends. My rates do change based on the number of people you’d like to involve, so please check first.

Do you see trans/non-binary/queer people?

Absolutely! Please let me know if you’d like me to use or avoid any particular language or activities during our sessions.

Are you a party girl?

In a word, no. Please do not bring intoxicants into my space, or arrive under the influence. If you appear impaired, I will terminate our session.

What about alcohol or marijuana?

If we’ve been friends for a while, I’m happy to share a drink with you. I will limit myself to one or two drinks, since I take my responsibility as your companion seriously. If you use marijuana for pain/anxiety, I trust you to manage it appropriately. My space is strictly non-smoking/non-vaping, so plan on going outside if you need to partake.

What if we meet in public?

Should we meet unexpectedly, a polite smile and a nod are fine, but please do not approach me in public. I will give you the same courtesy.

I’m disabled or have other special needs.

Please contact me and let’s discuss your needs. I’m disability-aware and will do my best to accommodate you.

May I use you as a reference?

I am happy to provide references for my clients, and I do my best to respond to reference requests quickly. However, if you’re asking me to be a reference for you, please allow no more than 6 months to have passed since our last meeting. If it’s been longer than 6 months since I’ve seen you, then I will let the inquiring provider know that so that they can decide whether they want to accept me as a reference.